The Secret to Self Improvement and Success

 

Many people have made amazing strides in their lives and achieved incredible success, only to find themselves back where they started. When I think about the self I think about my past experiences, achievements, failures and the things that I wanted to achieve but didn't quite get to. It was frustrating, lonely and sometimes even devastating at times. In order to learn from these mistakes and grow in a positive manner I came up with this list of tips and tricks that should help you succeed in your day to day life. Some of them have already been used to give others a bit of advantage over us, but they may also just provide something for yourself or another person to learn from. So take a look:

Use This Technique For Positive Feedback

You need to continually remind yourself of how valuable you are as a person on just any level and whether it is a big job or small project you can get done. If you don’t do so you will eventually become angry and resentful and find yourself doing everything wrong. At least take some time each day to consider what this feedback is going to mean to you. Does it make you feel confident or worthless? Is it something positive, bad or neutral? Can you move forward without it? How much can you actually accomplish? Is it possible to be more than you are right now? Be sure that you get it and go ahead and put out positive feedback each day. Your brain will appreciate it! You might even want to write down exactly what it is on paper so you can continue to check it off each morning.

Set A Goal For Your Day And Do Anything That Makes You Excited About It

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Once upon a time when I felt like a complete failure and had absolutely no hope of improving my career I would just sit around feeling sad, hopeless, depressed and depressed. My days were filled with nothing but negative thoughts and the feelings would constantly build. Instead of thinking about what I did wrong I would just sit there thinking about how screwed I was by all of the situations in which I found myself in. No matter how well I performed my friends and family thought I wasn’t good enough. What really made me feel like I was failing was that there was nobody else who could succeed as well. Maybe if I did something and got lucky I could finally start to change my circumstances, but I never dared to try anything because I wasn’t as talented as anyone else. So I sat there, I could barely make a word. Then I tried again this time setting a goal. Finally I was able to finish something as brilliant as a piece of creative writing. I was amazed by my ability to tell such an excellent story and then tell it in the most simple way. I set a high bar on what I wanted to do for school but I didn’t stick to it. I took an old journal and wrote every single word of my essay here to show how far I had come. Eventually I figured out how to work with new materials, and within a week wrote the story of my dream essay. Every single line of my final product showed me how much I had learned and how much more I was capable of. Now I just sat there wondering how I managed not to be what everyone else was. Maybe if I stuck to my goal I probably wouldn’t have been as miserable and defeated as I was at the beginning.

It’s Okay To Fail

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When you start working hard, you should always stay true to your goals. If you aren’t certain you don’t need to make excuses because it isn’t the end result that matters. Failure means that you’ve failed. Accepting things will happen and failing along the path that you choose will bring you a lot of progress. Try not to overthink failure. Learn from it and move forward. Take note of what went right and what went wrong and stay grateful for everything that you did right. Most importantly know that even though things weren’t perfect they still made you feel better about yourself and gave you a little bit extra energy towards something new.

Don’t Forget Not To Love Yourself Enough

You need to remember and be proud of yourself for everything you do and everything that you are capable of achieving. Look after yourself and love yourself enough to believe that you deserve everything that you have. Think of all of the happy memories the last month will bring. Remember the fun things you shared with your friends and family. All of the things that made you laugh or smile. Keep your mind open for everything that you may need for your own well being. Make sure to focus on your strengths instead of focusing on your weaknesses. Don’t let others discourage you or think that it is too late to start over. Focus on finding ways of getting back on track rather than giving up.

Be Realistic

You need to stop having unrealistic expectations of your future. You need to accept that the past is the past and the future is uncertain. You need to forget about chasing those dreams and dreams and focus on what you can control instead. Stop trying so hard to turn something into nothing and instead start working toward your goals with a plan and direction. Life is what you make it and what you decide at the moment. You’re responsible for your happiness, you have power to change it and you are responsible for making that a reality. Being realistic to some degree is key and may just change how you see things. Stop focusing on what you know can’t happen and concentrate on what you still can.

Find Someone Who Will Help Me Achieve My Goals

My greatest challenge is deciding who I want to help in my efforts to accomplish my goals. With no prior experience to fall back on I decided to ask a friend of mine a question: “How can we get more money together?” She said that she would be very interested in helping someone like me achieve the same results or maybe even achieve better results than we had. From there I set out on a quest to teach her how to earn and save more. I asked her to start saving and she agreed, but she couldn’t figure out the steps of this process. After several months of learning how to save and spending the bulk of my income on books, videos and other resources I realized that my friend needed help. She needed someone whose opinion was valid but could also see the bigger picture. I asked her to volunteer her time with me to get her financial literacy up to speed. From there we started discussing her finances, our incomes, what she needed to set up a savings account with me and any other details that we decided to discuss. We took out a couple loans to be able to pay her bills for three months, and we talked about how best to share about it so she didn’t feel ashamed. Since then we’ve had seven sessions and it has been a huge hit with her. She now knows the ins and outs of money. Our conversations almost always end with her telling me that she loves me and will help me out. We are now closer than ever before. Her friendship opened my eyes and kept reminding me of how important it is to help each other out and what a blessing it is to meet somebody who will support you every step of the way.

Get Away Safely

You might not believe it, but when you think about the worst problems that could happen in your life you just want to run away. By running you are committing to yourself that you are unsafe, and you are putting the health and safety of yourself and others at risk. You have to realize that you are not safe and you cannot be. Your own security is the safest thing that can possibly be taken from you and you will do anything to protect it. Get rid of the fear and the people around you don’t always care about you, because you are the safest person walking right now. Asking others to talk to you because they are worried you are taking care of them and doing something unhealthy is not the answer, it is just adding more anxiety and stress to your life. Find other ways to keep your comfort zone safe that don’t include risking everything that you have built for yourself. Get lots of sleep and limit yourself to two hours in the evening, eat healthy meals and exercise regularly. Work on building a community around you and having one person that cares about you instead of forcing you into something that you aren’t ready for yet. Trust me this would have saved you a serious amount of grief, tears and broken relationships!

All in all, it takes some practice and time to get used to things in your life and understand why people do things the way they do. It doesn’t take any secret. Just try to stay humble and realist and know that your next attempt at reaching your full potential will fail a few times. However it should still be more than enough to push what you need to get things going again in a new direction. Whether it’s starting to save more, finding love in a different way or building new friendships, the point is to learn from your mistakes and get better to move forward. And if you have any questions, don’t hesitate to ask. Be patient, understand what you are going through and find someone who is willing to help. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.